Sometimes, when a person resigns to join a new firm, her boss makes a counter-offer to keep her.
Every recruiter will tell you not to accept. It's sure to be a disaster they'll say.
These are the reasons they give:
1. The boss won't trust you anymore because she knows you're not loyal. She believes that you don't have a strong commitment to the company.
2. She will only keep you in place to avoid a disruption until she can find a replacement.
3. If she really cared about you why didn't she give you the goodies before you threatened to go.
4. There was a reason you were willing to move. Is it possible to satisfy that desire by staying where you are?
Here's what I think -- and it's pure speculation.
1.Your current employer probably can't give you what you want so there will be no counter-offer.
2. Not everyone tells their employer what they want until they are ready to go so the employer doesn't know. That's one reason you don't get it until you say goodbye.
3. Every business tries to limit its expenses. That's why they didn't pay you more money before you said you were going to leave. That's just the way the average business works -- but they will pay when they have to.
4. If your boss is very emotional he might not trust you once he knows you tried to leave -- but most people know that no one stays forever anymore (and he won't either). So loyalty and trust are not major issues.
Therefore, if a counter-offer seems good, it might make sense. But if you accept it just because your boss makes you feel guilty for leaving, then it probably won't work out.