One hundred milliseconds after we see someone, we have made a determination about their race; 50 milliseconds later, we have determined their gender.
Stereotyping is ascribing a set of traits to an individual based on his membership in a specific group. Prejudice is disliking someone because of her group identity.
Most whites are quicker to associate positive words with images of whites, and negative words with blacks. However, this bias can be reduced or erased because racial stereotyping and prejudice depend on the context in which someone appears.
When people are shown images of well-liked black public figures, for instance, bias disappears because the context tells people that the person is not someone they need to worry about.
So, you can get people to stop thinking in terms of race by identifying a black person with membership in another group which then becomes the context and focus of attention. But you can't do the same with gender because assertive, commanding, leadership qualities are deemed offensive in a woman no matter what the context.
The only other trait that we notice as strongly as gender is age.
"Fran Boutilier and Alison Green kicked butt when they went to work for Bell ExpressVu." But they didn't want to kick butt at a company retreat and were fired as a result, they claim. Apparently, participants were expected to do judo kicks, punches and chokeholds in skirts and high heels.
They also claim that the boss, Gary Smith liked to hang out at bars with the guys (no girls invited) and ran meetings in which which Terry Snazel, VP Engineering was allowed to tell people to "Go f--- yourself."
Also, when Green found out that she might have cervical cancer, she was told that she was too emotional. But, when a guy had cancer, his outbursts were tolerated without complaint.
Bell says it can't be sexist because the retreat was organized by a woman and a woman replaced one of the fired execs, as well.
Wendy Shalit claims that in order to advance the cause of equal rights, earlier feminists insisted that differences between the sexes are a socially constructed means of oppression and that women could and should act like men.
But girls, she claims, are not boys and don't really enjoy sex without emotion or restraint. Therefore, a new generation of women are pulling back from cultural pressures to ape the sexual proclivities of men.
1. Jim didn't post my interview when I fought with Karen. But it's okay for Penelope to fight with her. He admits it's because he loves a catfight. Isn't that sexism? Penelope thinks so.
Karen says Penelope gives her goose-bumps. Didn't someone say that men like to see women wrestle because they think they might eventually start kissing? At the start, Karen says outright that she is not a fan of Penelope's. But I had the feeling that P won her over. It gets pretty kissy by the end.
2. I see that Hank Stringer was interviewed by Jim. Hank's people sent me a request for an interview but didn't respond when I agreed. What? I'm not good enough?
3. Jim said that this was one of his "more favorite" episodes. He didn't say that to me. (But I did like what he said about strippers so I guess it's okay).
There's an air of sex in this interview
Penelope has always worked for hot bosses. If you're attracted to the person you work with it makes you really want to be there. You want to have sex but don't so she thought about having sex with her boss a lot.
At a networking event, you should sit next to people who are better-looking than you. They attract people and some of their shine lands on you.
Guys watch professional volleyball on TV because it's like porn. And, they always want to talk to Penelope about her volleyball career.
I'm told that my grandfather had a favourite saying: "A dead horse can't kick you." Meaning that if he's kicked you once, don't give him a chance to do it again. Now, I'm not a zero tolerance kind of person but, this case makes me think twice.
A synagogue in Toronto was sued by a married woman in her early 50s who claimed that the cantor (who leads the prayers) had enticed her into a sexual relationship. Once this was publicized in The Toronto Star, a second woman came forward with a similar story.
Here's my point. The synagogue knew about the first offence but kept it secret and gave the offender a second chance.
Ryan told me that he had a fling with a 26-year-old, but it made him uncomfortable because “every woman over 25 is just looking to get married."
-- Penelope Trunk
The Flying Squirrel replied:
I’m a 26 year old woman. I am not looking to get married. Ryan’s writing would be interesting to me if he was only a “case study” on Generation Y — not doling out unwanted advice and making sweeping generalizations.
Animal Comment: The Squirrel is wrong. Ryan Healy never indulges in reckless over-generalization. And, even if many women over the age of 25 are thinking about marriage, it would not be indicative of a flaw in their characters. For, as Penelope herself points out, the issue of the biological clock is a legitimate one. The only mistake would be to go out with Gen Y studs like Ryan who are not ready to settle down.