Journalist, Tom Wolfe, learned that it didn't pay to try and be buddy-buddy with the people he was interviewing. Here he is talking about interviewing people for his book about hippies, The Electric Kool-Aid Acid Test
Wolfe said that Kesey would often test visitors and try to determine who among them was a “weekend hippie” and who actually followed the hippie lifestyle.
“He would say, ‘All right, let’s everybody get naked and get on our bikes and go up Route 1,’ ” recalled Wolfe. “They did. This separated the hippies from the weekend hipsters very rapidly. I didn’t have to worry because I was in my three-piece suit with a big blue corduroy necktie and the idea that I was going to take any of this off for anybody was crazy.”
The suit, he said, functioned to differentiate him from the people he covered in his pieces — and made it clear to his subjects that he was not one of them.
“I have discovered that for me, it is much more effective to arrive in any situation as a man from Mars than to try and fit in,” he said. “When I first started out in journalism, I used to try and fit in. … I tried to fit into the scene. … I was depriving myself of the ability of some very obvious questions if I fit in. … After that, I gave it up. I would turn up always in a suit and just be the village information gatherer.”
To make yourself stand out to a recruiter, Cheng advocates the going super deep method -- showing that you can already do great work for the position which is the only thing that predicts on-the-job success.
"I decided to become a designer, but I had no design skills. I thought about going back to school for design, but the time and money commitment was too big a risk for a career choice I wasn’t totally sure of.
"So I taught myself--everyday I would do my day job in record time and rush home to learn design. Super talented people go to RISD for 4 years and learn design properly. I hacked together my piecemeal design education in 6 months--there was no way I was ready to become a designer. But I was so ready to leave Microsoft. So I started the job search and got rejected a few times. Then I got the job at Exec."
Then she learned to dance in a year.
"Here's my secret: I practiced everywhere. At bus stops. In line at the grocery store. At work--Using the mouse with my right hand and practicing drills with my left hand. You don't have to train hardcore for years to become a dancer. But you must be willing to practice and you better be hungry."
The daily practice, she says, doesn't come from discipline; it comes from being obsessed.
And, regular practice is the key to developing skills so she practices at least five minutes every day, and uses the Lift app to keep herself accountable.
This article doesn't say anything about it but in order to be obsessed you have to believe that you can make progress even when you are starting from scratch and you are so awful it seems hopeless.
When I bring up that whole mess, Katzenberg becomes heated — and for
the only time during our interview, he goes off the record. When his
diatribe finally reaches its denouement, he says, “Anybody else would
have walked away from this.”
So why didn’t he?
“Because I don’t give up. Show me a good loser, and I’ll show you a
loser. I was never going to give up. I wasn’t going to give up on the
French children don't need medications to control their behavior because
they learn self-control early in their lives. The children grow up in
families in which the rules are well-understood, and a clear family
hierarchy is firmly in place.
In French families, parents are firmly in charge of their kids—instead of
the American family style, in which the situation is all too often vice versa.
From the time their children are born, French parents provide them with a firm cadre—the
word means "frame" or "structure." Children are not allowed, for
example, to snack whenever they want. Mealtimes are at four specific
times of the day. French children learn to wait patiently for meals,
rather than eating snack foods whenever they feel like it.
babies, too, are expected to conform to limits set by parents and not by
their crying selves. French parents let their babies "cry it out" if
they are not sleeping through the night at the age of four months.
French parents, love their children just as much as
American parents. They give them piano lessons, take them to sports practice, and encourage them to make the most of their talents.
But French parents have a different philosophy of discipline.
Consistently enforced limits, in the French view, make children feel
safe and secure. Clear limits, they believe, actually make a child feel
happier and safer—something that is congruent with my own experience as
both a therapist and a parent.
Finally, French parents believe that
hearing the word "no" rescues children from the "tyranny of their own
desires." And spanking, when used judiciously, is not considered child abuse in France.
Albert Einstein had in his closet 7 white shirts, 7 pairs of black
pants, 7 tweed jackets, 7 black ties, 7 pairs of white boxers, 7 pairs
of black socks and 7 pairs of black shoes. During the summer months, he
swapped out the jackets for grey sweaters, the shoes for sandals and
would forgo the ties. He said in this way he did not have to waste
mental energy on thinking about what to wear.
He also came to like the idea of having a uniform for himself, both because of its daily convenience (the rationale he claimed) and its ability to convey a signature style. "So I asked Issey to make me some of his black turtlenecks that I liked, and he made me like a hundred of them." Jobs noticed my surprise when he told this story, so he showed them stacked up in the closet. "That's what I wear," he said. "I have enough to last for the rest of my life."
"Give ample deliberation to the decisions that concern major aspects of life, such as career, family, relationships, high-level goals and creative pursuits, and don't let small ones hang you up. The big ones determine what you actually do with your life--and it is their doing that contributes most to happiness, so it's worth pruning out as many of the distracting minor decisions as possible so that you don’t cease the important doing because you’re caught up in unimportant thinking."
An Egyptian Ataturk might ask, “why not introduce a new religion?” One
that emphasizes human freedom. One which teaches that nobody is going to
save you but yourself. One which suggests that human government will at
best be a necessary evil, to be limited and watched with great
vigilance. A belief system that inculcates the idea that cumulative
improvements to individual lives add up to a better society.