Do you ever read advice for women? Usually, the author is mad at men because they were raised right while their sisters were treated unfairly.
For instance, men were, allegedly, taught to be blunt, direct and outspoken whereas little girls were taught to fade into the woodwork.
Well, it never seemed that way to me. And now I see that the Brazen Careerist agrees. According to Penelope, men are not blunt, they are wily and full of guile.
Women assume you should ask for what you want... Women are typically more comfortable with conflict than men....
Men don’t generally ask for what they want....Men negotiate more than women because women are facing conflict head-on and men are not.
It’s much easier to approach someone you are not going to instigate conflict with. So negotiations work best when you don’t assume you need to ask for exactly what you want.
Whether we're blunt or indirect, it seems we're always the bad guys in the end.